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Sunday, October 5, 2008

It's pretty much irritating to see those drama serials that depict families with so many problems like brothers fighting over inheritance, couples filing divorce over a really teeny weeny problem, etc. Used to think how "fake" all these were when I was young, only to realise as time passes that all these so called dramatic incidents are all happening around me.

Was at my grandma's place just now and as I was taking a nap I heard my grandpa screaming at my grandma for some nuts reason. Just because she complained that some noodles that SHE was cooking wasn't nice. Oh com'on! If you think you can cook better than her just go and take over! She's already doing all the cooking and housework for you. What more do you want to ask for! DAMN!!!

Looking at my own family made me feel that all these things are just so real. Grandparents having this kind of problems after living for so many years together. The other grandparents having problems of separation. Seeing ALL my uncles and aunts fighting over who to pay for THEIR DAD'S expenses on BOTH sides. Looking at all the irregular attendance for 'family' gatherings due to those money problems. Hearing about my uncles and aunts always threatening to file a divorce when their children are already in their teens (so they have lived with each other for more than a decade). Looking at my grandpa having another woman outside of the family?! Sometimes I wonder why are all these things happening right in front of my face! DAMN!!!!!!!

Perhaps all these things are just part and parcel of life. Everyone's life seems to be revolving around money. Money > Kinship. Family ties can be broken because of money. All these sounds so ridiculous yet so real. Money seems to be the 'in' thing now that everyone is forgetting what family relationship is all about. So sons are not supposed to pay for their dad's expenses? Daughters are not supposed to help with the loan that their dad is currently having difficulty paying?!

Maybe I won't be able to really understand how it is like to be in those situations since I don't have my own family to support. Maybe I'm just too young and naive to think this way. "Life's all about money, son! Who cares about kinship!" Maybe I'm just too nosy and should not be bothering about all these "adult" stuff. Maybe I will well just be like one of my uncles doing the exact same thing to my dad when I grow up.

Sigh... Hate it when I start thinking about all these. Perhaps I should just feel fortunate that my mum and dad are rational enough (at least from how I'm looking at things) and I don't have much problems with my brothers (as of yet that is).

{3:57 PM}